The Key Word in Amends

A sponsor told me the key word in "amends" is "mend." ~ Vicki W

Amend means to change. The change that is amends
is mending, healing, repairing, stitching together, healing.
Perhaps the damage done is ages old, from early childhood,
a time before you could have consciously offended.
Perhaps the actor did the best she could and failed,
overwhelmed by personal trauma, by fears and phobias,
by life lived hard without sufficient protection. Whose fault?
What does it matter, if your side of the street is as clean as you can do?
You need amends for  you. And if you have to patch, darn,
cobble together, tie up with string, it's to your good
to change, to mend, to heal. The key word in "amends"
is surely "mend."