What Is Forgiveness?

What does forgiveness mean? Not forgetting – short answer, but more. Forgiveness is understanding another as flawed human. It’s assessing actions that addressed his needs, even if meeting those needs stomped on mine and my feelings, my financial security, my self-esteem, my personal relations – on me. Forgiveness is understanding our fellow folkA Cloud of Witnesses as human. If she’s wronged me, I can see she didn’t act because of me, but her – her needs. And forgiveness doesn’t mean putting yourself out there again, vulnerable, to open a way to be wronged again by the same person doing the same thing – or even other things. Don’t try to be a bosom buddy. But let her go, drop the resentment, the obsession, the anger. Don’t imprison yourself by waiting for her contrition. You need your wings, unclipped.